I hope everyone had a wonderful Mother’s Day! The kids made me a bunch of awesome cards (which I will be saving forever!) and my amazing husband got me tickets to go see The Offspring later this month. Woooo! ♥ The best Mother’s Day ever. Plus I got a guilt free four hr nap. *swoon*
I have been thinking all day about this post and now that I am sitting here, I do not know what to type. I feel like I should have some in depth advice or some mountain moving instructions on parenting. I mean, we ALL have advice on parenting and on a day like Mother’s Day it seems fit to spill your guts on how and why being a Mother touched and changed your life forever.
I feel, what it comes down to is enjoying your children. I know all to well that at times, it is indeed very hard to enjoy your children….Don’t get me wrong, I have very well behaved, intelligent kids and I take great pride when other Mothers glare at how “easy” my children look. I love those moments when a nearby mother, fighting with her child, glances over to see mine quiet and content with nothing more than holding my shopping list. This all came from a lot of tough love…and it was not easy. I’ve had to to give up a fair share of “me” time in the process.
I am going to go on a tangent here for a second. It’s Mother’s Day and it my blog so it can be as long and as off center as I’d like… Anyway, I can admit that I have not always been the most patient wife and mother. There have been many times I had just simply left the kids with my husband and did my own thing, traveling to see old friends. There have been times I had looked at my family life as a burden, something holding me back. But, I feel that going through these experiences have only made me stronger. They have given me a point of reference in this whole motherhood thing. I am able to look back and compare what kind of mother I could have been and strive to be something better, something stronger. Everyday we make the choice to be what we want to be. It is honestly that simple. Its not that easy, but it IS that simple.
So anyway…Enjoying your children. Life is hard. Gas prices suck. The economy sucks. Health insurance (or lack there of) sucks. There is so much negative surrounding us everyday that it can be very hard seeing the joy and wealth in something as simple as our children. No, no…children aren’t simple…but the joy that they bring is. I think that is something a lot of us lose in parenting. We become so overwhelmed with everyday life that our children just get lost in the shuffle. Even as a parent, we still have to have our own sense of being. We still have to be our own person. That’s where the enjoyment comes in. My husband and I love Star wars, so rather than put that on the back burner, rather than tuck away that part of ourselves, we embrace it with our kids. We pause on the weekends and watch a Sci Fi movie with them. Now we have a son so obsessed with space, we always have something to talk about. Our daughter loves making things, so she runs around Rory while he works outside and that bonding could never be replaced. We listen to music with our kids and read books that interest us with them. We shop with them in the stores we find interesting. From sharing what we like with them it has opened the flood gates of communication. We enjoy exploring their interests as much as they do ours. We enjoy our children and at the same time we are able to touch base with who WE ARE. I feel that because Starla and Trent know us as individuals they respect our decisions because they know why we make them. Respect is a big thing in this house.
So go enjoy your children. Share something with them about yourself. You may be surprised to find they have the same tiny seed of interest, it just needs guidance in blossoming. ♥